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Defriending

Monday, July 13th, 2009

The landscape of friendships is changing with our internet-crazed society. Friends on Facebook, followers on Twitter. Sometimes, we befriend people we encounter in the online world that we’ve never met in the real world and sometimes we add people from our real world to our online world because we feel guilty if we don’t.

The main benefit of the online friend world though, is the delete button. If only we could have one of those in real life. Everyone has that one annoying person in your circle of friends. You can’t remember how you became friends in the first place, but you rue the day it ever happened. In the online world, you just delete them. In the real world, they still have your phone number and street address and know where you work.

I deleted a ‘friend’ on Facebook recently (someone I’d met a handful of times in person). I was then confronted with a barrage of emails from this individual cursing me out, telling me I’m not perfect, I have ‘issues’, I’m being petty etc etc. I’ve had people delete me before and I don’t hunt them down and scream bloody murder. That’s because I don’t particularly care.

The person I deleted may have some valid points. I may very well not be perfect (unlikely, but a possibility), I may have issues (awesome ones!) and I might just be a little petty. Or (and I’m just throwing this out there as an option), I may just think this person is a douchebag, who I’ve never particularly liked that much.

I would say, when someone deletes you, it’s not really a debatable point. I don’t need a list of reasons why we should be phony, online friends. Give me all the reasons you want, I’m still gonna think you’re a douchebag. Actually, I’m gonna think you’re even more of one for contesting my deletage.

So, if you get deleted by one of your online homies, just take it. Not everyone will like you in life (real life, or otherwise). Deal with it.

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