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Keeping Your Distance or Getting Connected?
Monday, December 5th, 2011
We hear arguments all the time that social media is not all that social at all – that it is, in fact, making us drift apart as a society. We’re becoming disengaged from ‘real life’, disconnected from people and simply chained to our computers rather than out there, living. But I wholeheartedly disagree. With the advent of social networks, blogging and the internet in general, I’ve never felt more connected to people.
Tags: depression, friendships, internet
Posted in life, relationships | 15 Comments »
Do You Hold Grudges?
Tuesday, November 15th, 2011
When someone crosses you, really hurts you, has worn you down in one way or another for years – eventually you wake up one day and you’ve just had enough. When that happens, you have one of two choices; to release it all, or to hold a grudge. I’ve met way too many people who, despite starting out telling you they’re ‘over’ a situation, can then chew your ear off for an hour about all the various reasons they no longer speak to that bitch who snogged their fella on that drunken night out back in 1996. Maybe I’m missing something, but I just don’t understand what anyone has to gain from holding a grudge. So how do you get over it?
Tags: friendships, grudges, revenge
Posted in life, relationships | 15 Comments »
Ending a Friendship
Thursday, October 27th, 2011
BFF – Best Friends Forever. Those immortal words have been scrawled on the notebooks of teenage girls for years. We all believe there is no bond so strong, nothing can bring down this impenitrable wall of solidarity, few people understand the innate workings of the sisterhood you’ve sworn yourself into with your besties. It’s nice to believe that. But sometimes, through situations out of our control, those friendships come under strain and start to crumble. How do you know if you should just walk away?
Tags: ending friendships, friendships
Posted in life, relationships | 17 Comments »
The Ugly Girl Diaries
Wednesday, August 24th, 2011
I was an awkward teenager. No surprises there. Called ‘ugly’ frequently and pretty much ignored by the opposite sex at that all important time when you want nothing more than for them to give you a passing glance. I wasn’t blonde or blue eyed and my pancake chest most definitely did not bring all the boys to the yard. Freckly brunettes with braces were apparently not in vogue in the 90s. The popular, pretty girls labored in an alternate universe of seemingly constant boyfriends, flirting, sex and glamour. So to keep up, I did what all ugly girls do: I made it up.
Tags: learning, self confidence, ugly
Posted in relationships | 25 Comments »
Breaking the Cycle
Tuesday, July 19th, 2011
My previous relationships all came with an overall theme of ‘drama’. My first serious relationship was drama filled. I was young and didn’t know any better, so behaviour I’d become used to in that relationship, became behaviour I tolerated in others throughout my twenties. But there comes a time when you just have to say enough is enough. How do you draw that line in the sand?
Tags: bad relationships, drama, personal growth
Posted in relationships | 19 Comments »
How to Dine Alone
Thursday, July 7th, 2011
Being alone can be uncomfortable for some. This isn’t about whether or not you have a partner, this is about just being OK with spending time by yourself. Personally, I love it, but there are people for whom the thought of doing certain things alone petrifies them. Be it traveling, going to the pub or the cinema – it seems it’s just more socially acceptable to do these activities with people. Dining alone at a restaurant is like the final frontier. I know many people who wouldn’t dream of it, but I’m a master of it, so here’s a guide to how to grow some balls and go for it.
Tags: being alone, dining out, restaurants
Posted in relationships | 20 Comments »
The Art of the Twitter Meltdown
Monday, June 6th, 2011
People use Twitter for all sorts of different reasons; to network, promote, try out material, converse, vent. Never before have we had the technology at our fingertips to allow us to share our every passing thought with total strangers. But therein lies the problem: real life rules don’t always apply to online life and the lines get blurred. Why is it that the filter we use in every day life gets all but switched off when we connect to the internet? This is especially true when it comes to the public meltdown, Twitter style.
Tags: meltdowns, professionalism, social media, twitter
Posted in life, relationships | 24 Comments »
Are Your Work Mates Your Real Mates?
Thursday, May 26th, 2011
How intertwined are your work and professional life? Do you go for drinks after work with your office mates? Oh sure, we all want to make out like we love the people we work with and since we spend a great deal of our lives around them, it’s pretty essential for our survival, so we don’t totally lose it and go on an office rampage. But weather you’re genuinely friendly with work pals or just faking the funk to make it through the day, is it wise to buddy up with the competition?
Tags: colleagues, facebook, friendships, twitter, work, work/life balance
Posted in relationships | 17 Comments »
Stand By Your Man?
Monday, May 23rd, 2011
By now, we’ve all heard about Arnold Schwarzenegger fathering a child outside his marriage and keeping it a secret from his wife, Maria Schriver, for over 10 years. On the list of ways to totally crap all over the institution of marriage, your wife, kids and extended family, that’s pretty high up there. But it didn’t take long for the narrative to take a predictable turn. Of course Arnold was a sleaze bag, it should supposedly come as no surprise that he would do this apparently, but Maria, how could she not have known? She must have known! Why is it, in these situations, the dialogue so quickly implies that the woman is to blame in some way?
Tags: Arnold Schwartzenegger, cheating, infidelity, Maria Schriver, relationships, unfaithful
Posted in relationships | 13 Comments »
Does The Internet Ruin Relationships?
Wednesday, May 11th, 2011
In my first relationship when I was 17, I’d just gotten my first mobile phone. Back then, you only used it if you were actually out and couldn’t be reached on your home phone. Texting was complicated and took us all a while to figure out. No one was really using email that much. Basically, the only way to know what was up with your significant other was to actually hang out with them. Fast forward to 2011 and managing your relationship has become a complete clusterfuck as we all attempt to navigate our way through the myriad of technology that now plays a part in our love lives. So, does blogging and social media ruin relationships?
Tags: blogging, facebook, relationships, social media, twitter
Posted in relationships | 22 Comments »