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Tuesday, January 17th, 2012
A couple of months ago, I took my Team Bangs on the Run girls to Nike Town to have their gait analyses done and said to a friend of mine who works there ‘I’ve just brought my bitches in for you.’ Seconds after I said it, I cringed. I’m talking about a group of talented, driven, inspirational women and I referred to them as ‘bitches’. I’m sure they knew that I meant it affectionately, but I was disappointed in myself that I’d said it. Having been guilty of casually flinging that term around for years, recently it has not sat well with me. Though many feel we have ‘reclaimed’ the word, are we right to be using it?
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Monday, January 9th, 2012
Last Friday, a news story swept around the internet faster than…well, faster than it would have in print. It was about a woman named Julia. Julia had met a nice chap while on holiday in Ibiza (a destination known for romance, arts, culture and the finer things in life – by all that I of course mean foam parties and getting sloshed). They shared one kiss. Julia gave him her number, he never called. Months pass and Julia, now convinced that the fella is the love of her life, thinks she may have given him the wrong number – THAT’S why he never called. So, she did what any woman who’s never heard back from a guy would do: she launched a national PR campaign to find him. Cue intense cringing.
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Monday, December 5th, 2011
We hear arguments all the time that social media is not all that social at all – that it is, in fact, making us drift apart as a society. We’re becoming disengaged from ‘real life’, disconnected from people and simply chained to our computers rather than out there, living. But I wholeheartedly disagree. With the advent of social networks, blogging and the internet in general, I’ve never felt more connected to people.
Tags: depression, friendships, internet
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Tuesday, November 15th, 2011
When someone crosses you, really hurts you, has worn you down in one way or another for years – eventually you wake up one day and you’ve just had enough. When that happens, you have one of two choices; to release it all, or to hold a grudge. I’ve met way too many people who, despite starting out telling you they’re ‘over’ a situation, can then chew your ear off for an hour about all the various reasons they no longer speak to that bitch who snogged their fella on that drunken night out back in 1996. Maybe I’m missing something, but I just don’t understand what anyone has to gain from holding a grudge. So how do you get over it?
Tags: friendships, grudges, revenge
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Thursday, October 27th, 2011
BFF – Best Friends Forever. Those immortal words have been scrawled on the notebooks of teenage girls for years. We all believe there is no bond so strong, nothing can bring down this impenitrable wall of solidarity, few people understand the innate workings of the sisterhood you’ve sworn yourself into with your besties. It’s nice to believe that. But sometimes, through situations out of our control, those friendships come under strain and start to crumble. How do you know if you should just walk away?
Tags: ending friendships, friendships
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Wednesday, August 24th, 2011
I was an awkward teenager. No surprises there. Called ‘ugly’ frequently and pretty much ignored by the opposite sex at that all important time when you want nothing more than for them to give you a passing glance. I wasn’t blonde or blue eyed and my pancake chest most definitely did not bring all the boys to the yard. Freckly brunettes with braces were apparently not in vogue in the 90s. The popular, pretty girls labored in an alternate universe of seemingly constant boyfriends, flirting, sex and glamour. So to keep up, I did what all ugly girls do: I made it up.
Tags: learning, self confidence, ugly
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Tuesday, July 19th, 2011
My previous relationships all came with an overall theme of ‘drama’. My first serious relationship was drama filled. I was young and didn’t know any better, so behaviour I’d become used to in that relationship, became behaviour I tolerated in others throughout my twenties. But there comes a time when you just have to say enough is enough. How do you draw that line in the sand?
Tags: bad relationships, drama, personal growth
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Thursday, July 7th, 2011
Being alone can be uncomfortable for some. This isn’t about whether or not you have a partner, this is about just being OK with spending time by yourself. Personally, I love it, but there are people for whom the thought of doing certain things alone petrifies them. Be it traveling, going to the pub or the cinema – it seems it’s just more socially acceptable to do these activities with people. Dining alone at a restaurant is like the final frontier. I know many people who wouldn’t dream of it, but I’m a master of it, so here’s a guide to how to grow some balls and go for it.
Tags: being alone, dining out, restaurants
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Monday, June 6th, 2011
People use Twitter for all sorts of different reasons; to network, promote, try out material, converse, vent. Never before have we had the technology at our fingertips to allow us to share our every passing thought with total strangers. But therein lies the problem: real life rules don’t always apply to online life and the lines get blurred. Why is it that the filter we use in every day life gets all but switched off when we connect to the internet? This is especially true when it comes to the public meltdown, Twitter style.
Tags: meltdowns, professionalism, social media, twitter
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Thursday, May 26th, 2011
How intertwined are your work and professional life? Do you go for drinks after work with your office mates? Oh sure, we all want to make out like we love the people we work with and since we spend a great deal of our lives around them, it’s pretty essential for our survival, so we don’t totally lose it and go on an office rampage. But weather you’re genuinely friendly with work pals or just faking the funk to make it through the day, is it wise to buddy up with the competition?
Tags: colleagues, facebook, friendships, twitter, work, work/life balance
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