Women, Fighting and the loss of The Lady
I’ve always been of the opinion that if women fight, they should be forced to hand their vaginas in to the nearest police station. It’s just about the lowest thing we can do as the ‘fairer sex’, to come to blows. By nature, we’re supposedly less aggressive, so if ever I see two ladies duking it out, I just take a moment to pour a little liquour out for their womanhood. Take for example, this video of two women fighting over a seat on the subway in New York last week. In a society that’s becoming increasingly dog eat dog, does this symbolise the loss of the ‘lady’?
What is most distressing about that video is one of these women allows her baby (in its pushchair) to roll off the train while she continues fighting. If ever there was a symbol of womanhood, it would be fiercely protecting your child. The child rolled onto the platform, the doors closed, the train proceeded to the next station, all while these women continued to fight. When finishing a fight is more important than the safety of your child, you need to ask yourself some serious questions. Conversely, when you think it’s acceptable to beat up a woman while she’s with her baby, you also need to ask yourself some serious questions.
When did it become like this? Why did an arguments over such trivial things get so out of hand? At some point you’d think logic and reason would take hold, someone would be able to take a step back and realise, wait a minute, it’s just a seat on the subway, it’s just a snapshot of a moment in the grand scheme of my life, by dinner time I won’t even care – it’s not that serious, I will let it go.
In a true sign of the times, it took forever for anyone to jump in and stop it. Let’s all just stand around and gawk at it. Better yet, let’s take video! It’s worthwhile noting that the person doing the filming was male. Because women fighting is such a turn on to men. It’s a ‘cat fight’ – all that hair pulling, calling each other bitch, scratching etc – basically it’s just a few steps removed from every man’s lesbian fantasy, so it’s not really a problem, no one can really get hurt – women beating each other up is pure entertainment to men. I would’ve thought a man would see fit to step in, break it up, be the voice of reason, but that subway car has become a microcosm life in general in that basically, gender roles are all kinds of confused right now and no one knows what the hell they should be doing anymore.
Yes, it’s wrong for men to fight too. I’m equally disturbed if I see two men brawling in the street, but there’s just something about when women do it that both saddens me and makes me cringe. We’ve been getting the message for so long that to be powerful we must act like men, we should be ruthless, fearless and pursue what we want, which we absolutely should in some respects, but in others, is that attitude making us forget part of ourselves? Is the message being hammered home harder than ever before that femininity is a weakness?
Can we take a little pride in us being the ‘fairer sex’? Can it be a positive thing that we have more sense than to punch someone over a dispute about a subway seat? Where either of these women got the message that for them to walk away from that situation before it escalated, saying nothing, was a bad thing, I don’t know, but we need to change that immediately.
There’s a lot to be said for being a lady.
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Tags: cat fights, fights, gender issues, new york subway
