Comments on: How Easy is it to Break a Heart?

By: Vanna Dawkin

Vanna Dawkin — Mon, 20 Sep 2010 00:55:36 +0000

Just what I was thinking. Your update was 100% correct. To get an ex back is not the easiest of the jobs But it sure can cost some effort

By: Lynn

Lynn — Mon, 05 Jul 2010 17:59:33 +0000

These situations are never black & white – I was in the best relationship I’ve ever had and everything was going great – we were going to get married and all that… and then someone else walked into my life, I was presented with the opportunity and suddenly everything changed. It took someone else coming in and showing me what I could have to see that what I had wasn’t really want I wanted even though I was happy and we were in love. Love kind of blinded me into believing that average happiness was all I needed in a relationship. It ended horribly of course and the other guy ended up being a total douche but it showed me that I wanted more for myself. You can be totally happy in a relationship but totally unaware of yourself I think… so fickle might not be the way I would describe it – and it is most certainly not that easy in real life, but sometimes it takes someone else to push you outside your bubble to see things more clearly.

By: Bangs and a Bun

Bangs and a Bun — Thu, 01 Jul 2010 21:53:12 +0000

GRACE – That was the cutest comment. I hope I find someone I can feel that way about.

DOCTORCDF – I agree. When the sentiment shifts from ‘we’ to ‘I’ it’s definitely time to rethink.

CLAIRE – You’re right, it is very fickle to be able to walk away from it all so easily.

LISA SHERRATT – Thank you for sharing that – I appreciate the honesty!

YORUBA – True. And obviously these decisions are made much more easily in the movies!

SMARTY – Loyalty is an admirable quality, but would it have to be something that dramatic? Would you not reconsider if you just had a niggling feeling that something wasn’t right or you were bored?

MAX – Very true. I think if you plant the seed and someone does enough to convince you, anyone could be persuaded.

MISS ALISSA – I think a mistake a lot of people make is thinking that you won’t have to work in your relationship. It’s not always going to be roses and chocolates. But does that mean people should just walk away? Ahh, so many questions!

HAHA – Completely agree. Without trust, it’s just pointless.

By: Ha Ha Sound

Ha Ha Sound — Wed, 30 Jun 2010 18:02:11 +0000

I think it comes down to trust, primarily. Once that’s broken, then it’s a slow slide to breaking up. And usually it takes a long time to figure it out, which is probably why most breakups are so protracted and take forever to become permanent.

But once one person realizes they can’t rely on or trust the other person, whether it be because of cheating or something smaller, then I think it’s done. Because you never really know what’s going on in another person’s head, so if you can’t take their word for it, then you’re finished.

By: Miss Alissa

Miss Alissa — Wed, 30 Jun 2010 15:43:47 +0000

I think I know a fair few couples in the ‘unknowingly unhappy’ category, sadly half of them went and got married. Because they were head over heels once-upon-a-time, things aren’t terrible now, their parents like them, they live together etc. They just carried on down a path without ever really stopping to question it.

Sometimes it is a situation that wakes us up to ourselves and what we really want/need, sometimes it is a person. I’m really not a cheating kind of girl but I know that walking away when everything seems fine (regardless if somebody else is involved) is not an easy thing to do.

I think sometimes it can become a sleepwalk without you ever really realising. I have a few friends who have walked away (just before the big day in fact) and are now so much happier. They weren’t outwardly unhappy before, they would have got married, had babies and would probably have been fine. That thought scares the hell out of them!

By: max

max — Wed, 30 Jun 2010 14:41:20 +0000

I think that in relationships, as with anything else in life, our minds are our own worst enemy. So I think it’s pretty easy to break up a relationship if you plant the right seeds in a person’s mind and let it go to work.

Look at how easily Iago was able to get Othello to question Desdemona’s virtue…we can talk ourselves into or out of anything we want.

By: Smarty P. Jones

Smarty P. Jones — Wed, 30 Jun 2010 14:28:24 +0000

Well, first, it’d take a relationship. Secondly, if I’m truly happy with a dude, it would take something like blatant wrong-doing or infidelity or something to shake my faith in him that he could make me happy or a literal act of God, like him showing himself in person to say, “this is NOT the man I have for you. I was sending Shemar Moore to you, but you got impatient. Send this one away.”
Other than that, probably nothing. I’m loyal, almost to a fault. When I commit, I’m committed.

By: YorubaGirl

YorubaGirl — Wed, 30 Jun 2010 12:28:24 +0000

Hmm. Not sure what would break up my relationship (wait… I’m not actually in one. But you know what I mean!). I think it’s the human condition to always wonder, no matter how blissfully happy one is. It’s a ‘grass is greener’ situation. The important thing is the decision you make – will you stay or will you go? The answer is based on so much more than love (I think). And like Claire says above, that is something not covered by the lazy categorizations of ‘happy’, ‘unhappy’ and ‘unknowingly unhappy’.

By: Lisa Sherratt

Lisa Sherratt — Wed, 30 Jun 2010 11:15:07 +0000

As someone who only recently got tempted by someone else and left my partner of 6 1/2 years for them…I’d say its pretty easy.
Although I most definitely fell into the “knowingly unhappy” category, just I hadn’t really found any reason to move on, until I met someone who is the absolute opposite to my ex. So although my ex was generous, funny, good looking, my family loved him and he looked after me, I was bored and he wasn’t very exciting!
Admittedly I’m now paying for it by feeling like I’m constantly in the thrill of the chase, but I certainly cant complain that my life is boring anymore! And it would take a lot to turn my head now!

By: Claire

Claire — Wed, 30 Jun 2010 08:58:34 +0000

I am so ridiculously happy in love, that Romain Duris could show up with no shirt and an offer to whisk me away on a life of no worries, and I’d say “Yeah, thanks, but no thanks. (But give me a twirl before you go)”.

I don’t know if one can put women into a “happy, knowingly unhappy, or unknowingly unhappy” category, because it’s not that simple. It’s more about that person’s own ethics, morals, choices, and yes, how connected to, committed to, and in love they are to their partner. My boyfriend once jokingly asked me what I would do if Colin Firth met me, fell in love with me, and asked me to come away with him (SIGH!) and I jokingly responded, “Darling, I love you, but… it’s Colin Firth. Of course I’d go with him.” Of course, I was kidding (and I had to make that clear to my poor boyfriend who was worried…. well, for all of ten seconds) and it’s true.

I haven’t seen this film, but to imagine someone happy in love falling for a suave stranger – (and then, to add insult to injury, sticking with him when she finds out he’s an imposter) – is actually insulting. If a woman is as fickle as that, then that’s the category to put her into: fickle woman. End of story.