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Man B and B, this was hilarious and very true. Loved it (although your flip-flops one is still my current fave). I totally agree that Canadian men seriously lack balls. I mean seriously. I’ve seen it.

But I am actually going to say a few things in their defense believe it or not. I read a great book called Self-Made Man by Norah Vincent about a lesbian who went undercover as a man for a year. I think you’d actually love it. But in the book she talks about how much harder it is to approach and pickup women as a man than it ever was as a woman, and how some women would just crush you mercifully, making her more and more gun-shy about the whole thing.

As a New Yorker, I’m not sure why us New York guys tend to develop a bulletproof ego about the whole thing, but my theory is that we get so used to rudeness of strangers on a daily basis in general from the train to school to the workplace to the post office that the public rudeness and rejection of a woman in a crowded, public venue for everyone to see is just one more setback to just shake off. In a society as chronically polite as Canada’s, you can go days or weeks without encountering real in-your-face rudeness so that makes men there hypersensitive to approaching because they don’t ever get to develop that thick skin.

Also, one positive about the aloofness and inability of guys there to approach is that it makes Canadian women WAY easier to deal with than NY women. In NY, guys are aggressive almost to a fault, to the point where a fat girl or a 6 starts walking around like she just booked the cover to the Victoria’s Secret catalog. And I don’t blame them, I’d be out of control with my ego to if I was getting approached by them. When I used to vacation in Canada, I’d be shocked to see 9s and 10s with down to earth self-esteem, the ability to hold a conversation and often times they’d be so starved for sexual attention THEY would actually approach men or would just be incredibly appreciative of being approached because it was so rare.

So in some ways, even though the Canadian guys take the concept WAAAAY too far into the area of wussdom sometimes, there is something us NY guys can learn from their ability to be aloof or not so quick to approach anything with a pulse all the time.

Don’t you know that Canada is neutral and so are the men? I’m assuming. LOL

T – Dude, you are like the professor of the blog world! You are so on point here – I’d never really thought about it that way, but ’tis true. And you’re most definitely on point about the NY chicks…talk about ego! NY dudes approach anything with breasts and a pulse. It’s silly.

One man’s opinion – So you’re saying Canada’s boring? I’d try and argue but I really can’t.

Meredith – Thank you dear library, consider it borrowed.

Model – Amen sister! Try living here! Christ, some days I just wanna lash out in the middle of the street and scream profanity. That would probably make it onto the evening news or something.

So when a guy does find the balls to talk to you, you just criticize him. And you wonder why none of the other men spoke to you?

“And every girl likes a guy with huge balls.”

Nope, sister, wrong-o. Some girls ask their brothers and daddies to get their shotguns if they suspect a man would ask for their phone numbers. Other girls pull their own pistols and shoot first.

Maybe every girl RESPECTS a guy with big balls. But that respect sometimes takes the form of pepper-spray or lawsuits.

DAWO – I was actually very polite to the guy. I didn’t criticise him then and there because that would just be rude. But his approach was lame, plain and simple. He just needs to work on his game a little bit. I don’t know any girls who would have the reaction you said to someone asking for their number, so perhaps you’ve just had bad experiences. If you approach someone in the right way, they react in a good way. Pretty simple really.

YOU SUCK – Yeah, you could be right. I’m sure some people do think I’m gross, just like I’m sure the majority of people think you’re a douchebag.